How will you stay warm as the weather turns colder? Make a homemade soup, break out the sweaters, take a brisk walk to see the leaves turn, or snuggle with your pets/favorite people. But warmth is more than physical. It is also about feeling good during colder days. The warmth of community and connections is important to your well-being. Humans are a social species whose brains thrive best in positive community.
During colder weather you may snuggle in with your electronic device. Because community matters so much, we pay close attention to threats to our social belonging. This is a key feature in marketing, social media, and news. “Buy this to be one of the cool kids!” “Look what you are missing out on.” “Beware of these people, they are going to do bad things.” Randomly tuning into electronics decreases mood, increases a sense of threat, and actually disconnects you from others. Notice how you feel after watching a lot of media.
How can you create connections that warm you up? Actively use technology: have a video chat with a friend, learn to watercolor from YouTube breaking out those old paints to give it a try, listen to a talk and summarize the points made in a few sentences. Consider the people in your life who have been a support: write them a letter, give them a call, or invite them for a walk. You don’t need any other reason than “I have been thinking about you.”