Warmth is a primal need in winter. Both the warmth of connection and of cozy things to curl up with in the dark. Settle in with a blanket and a good book. Make a phone call to hear someone’s voice. If you would like to receive a resilience postcard this winter, simply complete the form at the end of this post. 

Food is a way to care for yourself and others. Stock up in case of bad weather and donate to a food bank for others. Plan delicious treats to share. Cooking as play – make something new or something you have loved forever. Or order your favorite takeout. 

Light is so needed in the dark. Set out candles and shiny decorations, sparkly lights and flickering fires. If your energy allows, do a whole room makeover, or light one small candle and allow it to bring a spark of joy as you take a slow breath. 

Nature – because you are part of the natural world. Find ways to stay connected to nature in the cold. Bring in some branches or a pinecone. Take a walk or step outside once a day to feel the sun on your face. I try to step outside early in the morning so that I know the weather for myself. Some days this lasts 15 seconds, other days it turns into a walk or a time to sit out front. 

Fun – because your brain is always going. Hibernation is not our natural state, we need stuff to do. Many holiday gifts reflect this – puzzles and games, toys and craft projects. Have a UFO (unfinished object) gathering – invite people to bring that ½ crocheted scarf, partly sewed quilt and unlettered photo album to work on during a chilly weekend. 

Community rituals and routines keep us connected. Go to that party. Have a game night. The house doesn’t need to be perfect; the decorations don’t have to be Pinterest worthy. Make sure the bathroom is clean and ask people to bring snacks or a game to share. 

Wisdom is an awareness that winter, and other dark times, is not permanent. The light will come again. Explore stories and books, movies and songs. What grounds you? A prayer, a workout routine, a seashell that holds the sound of the ocean? Create your own rituals and return to them time and time again.