Rip Tides is the second in our Turbulent Times series. Get caught up by reading Turbulent Waters.

It is scary to predict what will come next in these turbulent times. The social-political changes happening in the U.S. are creating chaos. As I explore ways to cope with my reactions and feelings, I turn to stories about coping with turbulence from the ocean. I love the surf and have experienced how terrifying it can be. In this and the next two blogs I am going to explore stories about being caught up by the ocean and reflect on lessons to be learned. As we consider how we have managed past challenges we can name the coping skills we need to care for ourselves, and our community, in these times.  

It is Thanksgiving weekend on the California coast in the early 1960’s. The day is warm, and the house is full of people talking and watching football. Barbara puts her baby down for a nap then she and her niece Signe, walk to the shore for a swim. They are delighted to realize they have the beach all to themselves, away from the football and noise. They jump in for a swim. It is fabulous.  

As they turn to swim back to shore, they realize how strong the current is. Annoyance turns to concern and then determination. Barbara thinks of her baby daughter back at the house and starts to worry. She is a strong swimmer and focuses her sights on shore while encouraging Signe. Nothing works; the shore doesn’t come any closer. She puts her head down and swims with all her might. When she looks up exhausted, she has lost sight of shore, and Signe.  

She floats and breathes, hoping to get her strength back for another try. She imagines her daughter growing up without her. Dire thoughts flood her mind. She doesn’t have the strength to swim and lies with her eyes closed on the ocean surface. When her leg bumps into something, she panics, opening her eyes. Lifting her head, she realizes the waves have brought her back to shore; her heel had hit the sand. With all her strength she crawls out of the ocean. Before she can figure out what she will tell the family about losing Signe she sees her niece also crawling out of the ocean.

The social-political turbulence going on in our country feels inescapable at times. Watching the news can give us the feeling that we are being swept away from safety and solid ground. In those times we can turn off the news and breathe. We can conserve our energy for getting the laundry done or doing the work that matters to us. We can pay attention to what is happening locally. Research can both increase our safety and help us find ways to make a difference.  

May you find ways to keep yourself safe during these turbulent times. I was the napping baby in this story. My mother returned to the house that day giving me the benefit of her optimistic and encouraging parenting. Learning from your own, and others’ stories allows you to stay safe in uncertain times. If you have reaction to this story, or if you have stories you would like to share, please send them to resilience@learnmodelteach.com or use the comment section.

Peace,

Laura